“As each one has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace.”
1 Peter 4:10
Live intentionally as if you are on a mission of encouragement – because you are! Here are 8 simple ways you can put your mission into action:
1. Make eye contact and smile!
It’s just amazing what happens when you smile at someone! When you smile, your brain releases good stuff that relieves stress, lifts your mood, and lowers your heart rate and blood pressure. Smiling also causes other people to naturally smile in response – which then causes all those good things to happen in their bodies as well! Test it and see if you can get total strangers to smile at you.
“There’s Magic in Your Smile” Psychology Today
2. Express Gratitude!
Saying thank you is not just good manners, it is an encouragement. People do their jobs day in and day out, often without any appreciation for their work. In a Forbes article about productivity, studies show that people tend to work harder and better when appreciation is shown for their work. Not only does their job performance improve, but their happiness does as well – which then spills over to encouragement toward others. Next time you are disappointed by poor customer service, try to find a way to offer just a bit of gratitude and see if there is a change. Though that change might not happen immediately, chances are they will remember and offer better service in the future.
The Secret to Productivity and Positivity: Show Your Appreciation Forbes
3. Catch people doing good things and report it!
We can be quick to report a problem, but how often do we report something good? I am borrowing this idea from my Elementary Education friends and I recommend you test it out! How fun would it be to ask for the manager and tell them what a great job someone just did for you? Can you imagine contacting the parent of a teenager and reporting the “good thing” you just caught their kid doing? What might happen if you contacted the newspaper or tv station to suggest a story about a person who does nice things for others – especially if these people are some that generally go unnoticed.
4. Ask how you can pray for people!
This is certainly not the first time I have suggested this one, but it is so good it bears repeating! Whenever you find yourself in a position to talk with someone – at the register, in a restaurant, on a bus, in line, in a waiting room, on the phone – ask someone how you can specifically pray for them. If it is appropriate, pray with them on the spot – if not, make a note and commit to pray later. Be prepared to hear a pause and then a very personal request – it may be surprising or even shocking. Remain judgement free and compassionate. If at all possible, follow up with the person later and let them know that you have been praying for them.
5. Ask people how their day is going and then listen!
We are so quick to ask, “How are you doing?” but I wonder how many of us are prepared for an honest response. Consider changing your question to one that beckons a more sincere response than “fine.”
“How is your day going today?”
“What is the best thing that has happened to you today?”
“Is there anything new in your life lately?”
People will often be surprised that you really want to hear about their life – but if you do ask be sure you are prepared to hear the answer! Respond with these statements:
“I hear you.”
“I would like to pray for you.”
“I’m excited (or sad) about that for you.”
People really just want to be seen and heard. Be intentional about seeing and hearing!
6. Look for ways to serve and bless others!
It is not hard to find ways to serve and bless others – the needs all around us are so great. Begin to train yourself to look for the needs, ask the questions, and then act.
The Boy Scouts have a slogan that reads, “Do a Good Turn Daily.”
Some Good Turns are big – saving a life, helping out after floods or other disasters, recycling community trash, working with your patrol on conservation projects. But Good Turns are often small, thoughtful acts – helping a child cross a busy street, going to the store for an elderly neighbor, cutting back brush that is blocking a sign, doing something special for a brother or sister, welcoming a new student to your school. A Good Turn is more than simple good manners. It is a special act of kindness.
This is a wonderful slogan for the Boy Scouts, but this should be the mantra for us all!
7. Plan to give!
My cousin, Amy, loves to plan a day for Random Acts of Kindness to honor her late husband. She prepares a strategy, budgets her resources, recruits a friend, and then goes out to spread kindness in a not-so-random way. Planning to give is a way of being intentional about encouragement. Pre-purchase gift cards to have on hand, keep money in your purse planned for giving, sponsor a child, give to a cause – each of these are ways to plan for giving.
8. Pray for opportunity!
What might happen in your day if you asked God to interrupt your plans to accomplish His purpose? We can – and should – pray for the opportunities for encouraging others to come our way and for us to recognize them. God loves it when we offer ourselves for His service – especially when that means serving others.
“Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord.”
Romans 12:11
Consider printing this post and keeping it in your journal or displaying it on the fridge so you don’t forget. Use these ideas – or get creative – and be intentional about living on a mission of encouragement!