by wendy | Jun 8, 2020 | Encouragement, Encouragement For Your Heart, Focus on God, Godly Relationships
My friend, Heather, and I talked about the feeling of overwhelm and weariness the other day.
“I am trying to make sure I have my quiet time,” one of us insisted, “but I still feel like I am running on empty.”
In the same conversation she sends me this quote by Ann Voskamp in “One Thousand Gifts.”
“You have to want to see the well before you can drink from it.”
Voskamp, 131
Later in the day I walk past the little goldfish pond my husband made from a clawfoot tub. He welded an old rusty pitcher to a copper pipe and it appears that water continuously pours from the pitcher to fill the tub. The water never runs out – it always pours out. But if you look closely, you see that the bottom of the pitcher is full of holes. It never holds any water – ever – it has nothing to give. The water flows from the pipe and is pumped up and through the pitcher.
I am that pitcher – rusty and full of holes. There is nothing in me that I can pour out to others – only what is poured out through me. When I try to pour out what I don’t have – I just feel more and more empty.
And its not enough just to sit with my Bible and mutter a few prayers. I need to pause and sit – abide – dwell in His presence. I need to want to be in His presence. I need to want to be filled.
“My people have committed two sins: They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water.”
Jeremiah 2:13
So how do we truly pause in a way that allows God to fill us? Here are some of the ways I pause.
Rest
Sometimes we need to sleep and other times we need leisure. In his book, “An Unhurried Life“, Alan Fadling describes the difference between holy and unholy leisure. The difference is found in what is life-giving and that could be different for each of us. We sometimes think of leisure – or even sleeping – as idleness or laziness, but rest and leisure are biblical and necessary for quality of life.
Slow down
Take a moment, breathe, step outside of the whirlwind. It is hard to believe, but the world will continue to rotate when take a break. Take time to listen, to think, to reflect, to meditate. Slow your response, slow your reaction, take a time-out. You are allowed – give yourself permission and grace.
Talk to a friend
Choose someone who will encourage you in the Lord. (1 Samuel 23:16) Talk through the hard things. Laugh together, cry together. Admit (confess) your emptiness and attitude. Remind each other of God’s promises and grace and mercy. Point each other back to God.
Each of these 3 ideas are important and biblical, but the next is the most important and the only way to find true peace and lasting strength in the pause…
Practice abiding
The Greek word for abide is “meno” and Kelly Minter described this as “hanging on the vine” in her Bible Study, “What Love Is” – a study on John 1,2, and 3. Hanging out with Jesus – it is a peaceful and intentional activity – a remaining in His presence so He can fill us. Fadling (An Unhurried Life) titles this, “Extended Personal Communion” and it is the single most life-giving thing we can do. It is there – in the abiding, in the communion with God, that we find life and life to the full.
Jesus said, “I am the way and the truth and the life.”
John 14:6
I must want to see The Well, I must drink deeply from The Well, and I must remain connected to The Well – always drawing from The Living Water – so I can continue to pour out.
“Whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”
John 4:14
by wendy | May 27, 2020 | Encouragement, Focus on God, Godly Relationships, Prayer, Tips for Encouraging Others
Photo Credit Sherri Cox
I was sitting by the lake with a group of friends on a camping trip. As more people, arrived they arranged their chairs in a circle so we could all see each other easily. It worked for a while – until the afternoon sun began to move the shade and people moved with it. Eventually, the grouping no longer resembled a circle, but our lakeside gathering didn’t end because of the shifting shadows. Instead, as some people moved, others slid in or started up a conversation in a different direction. When the person next to me scooted up, I had the choice to move with them or to engage with someone else. As evening came and everyone drifted away, I was delighted to have had the chance to connect with many different people – it felt like community.
The experience reminded me that our relationship circles of are also ever-changing. People move in and out of our lives depending on geography, interests, life stages, and even the temperature of the relationship. Truthfully, my “circle” rarely resembles a circle. Life is frequently changing and my relationships change too. Because community is fluid, it doesn’t always come easy – we often have to take step to grow and maintain a circle of relationships. And even when we feel like we are a part of something, we need to be ready when changes happen – we can choose to move with the change or engage with someone new.
When I find myself in times of loneliness and missing community, two action steps help me find my place in the circle again”
1. Reach Up!
O Lord, you alone are my hope. I’ve trusted you, O Lord, from childhood.
Yes, you have been with me from birth; from my mother’s womb you have cared for me.
No wonder I am always praising you!
Psalm 71:5-7
No matter how lonely we might feel, we are never alone! God has promised to be with us, to hold us close, and to never abandon us. We need only to reach up to Him to remember that He is there. God gives us everything we need – love, hope, security – and when we allow Him to fill us by spending time in His presence in prayer and studying His word, we will have all we need to reach out to others. We can adjust to the changes in our circle because our God never changes!
2. Reach Out!
“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”
Philippians 2:3-4
When I was a child, I was the one who frequently moved. My family was military and I attended several different schools. I can distinctly remember looking around after relocating in 2nd grade and intentionally considering how I would make friends. Even at that young age I was aware that making friends and building community required action on my part. That youthful revelation has served me well throughout my life. I have always found that the key to growing and maintaining a successful community is encouragement. We have all heard it said, “To make a friend you must be a friend.” The truth that lies beneath these words is found in the verse above; “look to the interest of others.
“I have always found that the key to growing and maintaining a successful community is encouragement.”
Spend some time thinking about how your circle has changed. What friendships need maintenance? Be intentional about reaching out to encourage those friends. Where are there holes in your community? Look around to consider how you might create new friendships through encouragement. Give encouragement out of the abundance of encouragement you have received from God. As you encourage others, you will be amazed at how God will bless you!
“Those who refresh others will themselves be refreshed.”
Proverbs 11:25
by wendy | May 18, 2020 | Encouragement, Encouragement For Your Heart, Focus on God
We use a loose interpretation of family in our house. We love to let others know that they are welcomed and will be included when they are here and we are passionate about loving on and serving others – especially kids. But the truth is that not every kid that visits is really our child. Unless they were actually adopted into the family, there are some privileges reserved for the ones that were given to us.
The same is true with God. He created us and loves us all. God welcomes all people to come to him and to join his family through Jesus, but unless they go through the steps to become adopted – accepting His son Jesus as savior – they cannot receive the same privileges reserved for children of God.
“To all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.”
John 1:12
As children of God and brothers and sisters in Christ, we are heirs to the Kingdom of God and we have special privileges reserved for His children. One of those privileges is regular and intentional encouragement from the Father. Here are a few ways we are encouraged by God.
God is devoted to Loving His children…
– by preparing a place for His children to be with him. (Revelation 21:1-4)
Scripture tells us that God is preparing a place for us. We can look forward to eternity in heaven with God. As his children, this is part of our inheritance.
– by giving His children purpose and fulfilling it. (Mark 16:15, Jeremiah 1:5, Psalm 57:2 (ESV))
Before we were even conceived, God has a unique purpose for our lives. Yes, we are all purposed to love Him, praise Him, and tell others about Him, but the way we are purposed to do it is unique for each of us. The best part is that God equips us and fulfills the purpose through us.
God is sensitive and compassionate to His children…
– by remaining present with His children. (Matthew 28:20, John 14:17)
God has given us His spirit to reside in us so that we are never alone. As His children, we have the privilege of entering His throne room by prayer at any time and His spirit prays for us when we do not know what to pray.
– by speaking the language of His children. (Acts 2:6, Romans 8:16)
Just today a friend shared that someone said the very words that her heart needed to hear. I understood what she meant because God often uses others to speak to me. He also speaks through Scripture, nature, circumstances, and the still, small voice that is His spirit. God speaks our language because He wants us to hear Him!
– by listening to His children and acting on their behalf. (Psalm 145:19, 2 Corinthians 1:3)
God promises to hear us when we pray, and He doesn’t just listen. The Bible tells us that He is compassionate – moved to action – when He hears us.
God pursues and promotes peace with and between His children…
– by being patient with His children. (Exodus 34:6)
I am so grateful for His patience! God has made a way for me even though I am constantly messing up. He doesn’t give up on me because He knows the plans He has for me!
– by providing a way of peace between His children. (Ephesians 2:14-17)
As much as I know that I hurt His heart when I am in conflict with other believers, God makes a way for us to reconcile. He has provided all the tools we need in Him to live in godly relationship with others.
– by not playing favorites with His children. (Galatians 3:26-29, Romans 10:12)
I love to tell each of my kids that they are my favorite, but they know that they are all my favorites! It is so reassuring to know that I don’t have to compete for my heavenly father’s affection – I am loved and treasured just like each of his children.
God blesses and forgives His people…
– by sacrificing for His children. (John 3:16, Romans 5:8)
There is no greater sacrifice than the one Jesus made for me – and for you – and for all. And the sacrificial love continues as He serves us day after day.
– by pouring out blessings on His children. (Psalm 86:5, Psalm 128:1)
The blessings are abundant. The more I recognize God’s blessings, the more He pours them out. The biggest blessing of all is Himself – and that blessing goes on forevermore.
May God be gracious to us and bless us
and make his face shine on us—
so that your ways may be known on earth,
your salvation among all nations.”
Psalm 67:1-2
by wendy | May 5, 2020 | Encouragement, Encouragement For Your Heart, Focus on God, Godly Relationships
You may have heard me talk about my routine of journaling where I have seen God at work each week, but what I don’t often mention is that sometimes it is difficult to find something to write down. I know that God is working in my life, but I don’t always feel His presence. The wonderful thing about keeping a record though, is that I can easily look back through the weeks and read about all the ways He has been present in the past. Remembering gives me confidence to know that He is there and working – even when I don’t see it. As the Scripture (Romans 8:31) says, “If God is for me, who can be against me?”
My pastor, Jason, preached on Isaiah 40 this week and he highlighted the transcendent (above and beyond) and immanent (present and close) nature of God. Understanding these qualities encourages me in complimentary ways. When I recognize that God is bigger than any problem I can have, I am confident in His ability to protect me. When I contemplate the way that God cares for me personally, I feel seen and loved.
He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart;”
Isaiah 40:11
There are many days that I feel lost and confused in this world. When I turn my eyes to God and remember that He always knows the way, the joy and peace of being a child of God returns.
“I keep my eyes always on the LORD, with him at my right hand, I will not be shaken.
You make known to me the path of life, you will fill me with joy in your presence.”
Psalm 16:8,11
Though you may not see or feel God’s presence today, spend some time reflecting on the ways that God is present with us.
God is Present through his Peace
We can experience God’s peace when we turn our worries over to Him.
“The LORD blesses his people with peace.”
Psalm 29:11
“The peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
Philippians 4:7
God is Present through His Spirit
As believers, we have the gift of God’s Spirit living within us.
“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God?”
1 Corinthians 6:19
“This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit.”
1 John 4:13
God is Present through His Word
Meditating on Scripture seats us in the presence of God.
“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.”
Psalm 119:105
“My comfort in my suffering is this; Your promise preserves my life.”
Psalm 119:50
God is Present through his People
We can usher others into the presence of God through prayer and by using the gifts he has given us.
“Where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”
Matthew 18:20
“The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.”
James 5:16
God is Present through Jesus
God wants us to know His presence so much that He sent His son Jesus to be with us – in person! Immanuel literally means God with us. In Jesus, God made a way for us – sinners – to be with Him – holy and perfect.
“The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel (God with us).”
Matthew 1:23
“Therefore , brothers and sisters, since we have confidence to enter the Most Holy Place by the blood of Jesus, by a new and living way opened for us through the curtain, that is, his body, and since we have a great priest over the house of God, let us draw near to God with a sincere heart and the full assurance that faith brings.”
Hebrews 10:19-22
How do you experience the presence of God?
by wendy | Apr 30, 2020 | Encouragement, Encouragement For Your Heart, Focus on God
I have a confession. This likely will not be a surprise for those of you that know me well, but I am not a tidy gardener. I love perennials, and I especially enjoy collecting them from friends. I have plants in my flower gardens that I have carried through 5 moves. It brings me great joy to divide the plants, move them around in my yard, and to share them with others. Sadly, while I treasure the plants I collect, I don’t keep good records of what I have planted and where. This can make for a fun surprise when I watch them emerge and bloom in the spring – it is a little like an unexpected visit from an old friend!
The bad part of my negligence is that I don’t always know what is popping up each spring. Occasionally I lose plants because I mistake them for weeds – and that is what almost happened to one of my favorite plants this spring. A clump of what appeared to be grass was growing in the flower bed close to my door. I have been watching it for several weeks and thought about pulling it up. I could blame distraction and laziness for leaving it there to grow, but there was a nagging thought that prompted a wait-and-see attitude regarding the plant. This week, buds appeared atop tall, straight stems and suddenly I remembered! It was my “Star of David” flower. I was so thankful I had waited.
There have been so many times that experiences have cropped up in my life in the same way. I regard them just like that “clump of grass.” I’m often tempted to disregard, dismiss, or devalue the experience just because I cannot see a beautiful bloom or edible fruit. However, if I am faithful to wait, patient enough to allow it to exist – I may be rewarded by recognizing the value of that experience later.
God wastes nothing. While He may not be the author of a difficulty in our lives, He will always use the hard things to strengthen us, grow us, and prepare us. Whether the experience was birthed out of our own poor choices, the ill will of others, the evil of the enemy, or the discipline of the Father, it may prove valuable and it might even bloom into an opportunity to encourage others!
” Is your life full of difficulties and temptations? Then be happy, for when the way is rough, your patience has a chance to grow. So let it grow, and don’t try to squirm out of your problems. For when your patience is finally in full bloom, then you will be ready for anything, strong in character, full and complete.”
James 1:4 (Children’s Living Bible)
The truth is that we may not be able to discern which experiences are weeds and which are valuable plants until they have fully developed. But God always knows. We need to rely on the Holy Spirit for discernment and not rush to rip them out of our lives. What difficulties are you experiencing right now? Instead of asking for them to be taken away, could you ask God to strengthen you through the suffering and use you to comfort someone else who walks a similar path?
“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.”
2 Corinthians 1: 4
by wendy | Apr 29, 2020 | Encouragement, Encouragement For Your Heart, Focus on God, Godly Relationships
Even though my days seem to run together lately, they are not lacking for things to keep me busy. My new writing routine, art business, and family are enough to fill my days, but there always seems to be more than I can find time to do.
Recently, I decided to bake Chocolate Chip Cookies to deliver to my youth group as a way to show them that I was thinking of them. When the day arrived to do the baking, I also had a phone meeting scheduled with my prayer partner – so naturally I decided that multi-tasking would be a great idea. I have made Chocolate Chip Cookies so often that surely I would be able to whip those up while I shared my prayer requests with my PIP (partner in prayer).
Unfortunately, distraction and baking don’t mix well and 10 dozen cookies (minus one forgotten cup of flour) found their way into the trash can after each batch emerged from the oven flat and gooey. Not only did I feel frustrated that I had not given all of my attention to my PIP, but I had also wasted precious ingredients.
I waited until the following day to attempt the cookies again, thankful that I had purchased extra supplies, and I set aside the time to focus entirely on my baking. Even though my cookies have turned out successfully many times before, the voice of failure began to creep in. “You can’t bake – those cookies will be a disaster again.”
I silently reminded myself that I was using a tried and true recipe.
“You are wasting time and money,” the voice insisted.
I pushed back with the reminder to myself that I was doing an important thing for the kids.
“Who do you think you are? This is a silly idea.”
I turned my thoughts to memories of people enjoying my baking in the past. It was hard though – failure and fear were ringing loud in my ears – and it wasn’t the first time. I truly had to use memories of success and trust in the recipe and ingredients to shore up my courage to follow through. No one would have known if I had quit, but I am so glad I didn’t pass up the opportunity to encourage my youth with a sweet treat because of my own discouragement.
Once the cookies (that turned out perfectly by the way) were delivered to the kids, I had an opportunity to think about the whole experience. I realized how often I allow the voice of fear and failure to deter me from encouraging others.
Reject the Resistance – Remember the Recipe
In case you forgot – or maybe you don’t know – let me remind us (I need the reminder too) that the devil prowls around actually looking for someone to pick on (1 Peter 5:8). That might not sound like good news, but it is good to know. Resistance is normal – it is to be expected – but the real good news is that we don’t have to bend to that resistance. James 4:7 tells us that if we resist the devil, he will flee from us. The trick is to remember the recipe (or the directions that God gives us for resisting the devil).
“We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
2 Corinthians 10:5
In Philippians, Paul gives us a recipe – a list of things to think about instead of the thoughts the enemy would like us to have. He tells us to filter our thoughts by identifying whether or not they are true, noble, right, pure, lovely, or praiseworthy – and then he promises that God will give us peace (Philippians 4:8-9).
Reject the Rebuke – Remember the Reason
In the midst of fighting off the rebuke of the enemy, it is helpful to remember that Satan is known as the accuser (Revelation 12:10) and John 8:44 tells us that the devil is the father of lies. If we can remember that the voice in our heads -the one telling us that we are not enough and calling us a failure – that voice is a liar and his intention is to derail, distract, and disrupt the Kingdom of God. We must learn to identify that voice and reject the lies!
“Encourage one another daily, as long as it is called, ‘Today,’ so that none of you will be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.”
Hebrews 3:13
Whenever we are tempted to give in to the lie the enemy is trying to use against us, we need to remember the reason why we are doing what we do. Matthew 5:16 tell us to let our lights shine so others will see the glory of God.
Reject the Rejection – Remember the Reward
When we feel rejected, let’s turn the enemy’s game right back on him by reminding ourselves that God says we are chosen, loved, blessed, and called, and no one – not even me – can separate me from that love.
In light of this love, we must press on in our encouragement. Never give up my friend – the reward is very great!
“But as for you, be strong and do not give up, for your work will be rewarded.”
2 Chronicles 15:7
“Command them to do good, to be rich in good deeds, and to be generous and willing to share. In this way they will lay up treasure for themselves as a firm foundation for the coming age, so that they may take hold of the life that is truly life.”
1 Timothy 6:18-19
