by wendy | May 20, 2020 | Encouragement, Encouragement For Your Heart, Godly Relationships, Hospitality, Tips for Encouraging Others
God sets a wonderful example for us in how He cares for and encourages His children. In “The Encouragement of the Father,” we looked at how God encourages us by his devotion, his sensitivity and compassion, the way He promotes and pursues peace, and blesses and forgives His children.
In Romans 12, Paul writes about the responsibility of the believer to care for and encourage our spiritual family. These responsibilities perfectly reflect God’s ways toward us. While we are exhorted to encourage other believers, Paul also reminds us in 1 Timothy that we should turn our attention first to our physical family.
“Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”
1 Timothy 5:8
This Scripture is clear – meet the needs of your household first. Meeting physical needs is necessary, but let’s not forget the importance of encouragement! I love the list Paul gives us in Romans 12:9-21 titled, “Love in Action.”
Be devoted to love…
Love sincerely and be devoted to that love.
We need to demonstrate tender, unselfish love to each member of our family. The key word here is demonstrate – how can you show that love?
Share and practice hospitality.
When we are devoted to something, we pursue it faithfully, and we can do that by sharing with one another and practicing hospitality with our own people.
“Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.”
Romans 12:13
Be sensitive and compassionate…
Set the tone for joy, patience, and faithfulness.
Set the tone of encouragement in your home by the way you respond to and pray for each person. Model joy, patience and faithfulness to others and pray for them to follow your example as you follow the example of Christ.
Be sensitive and join others in their celebrations and in their sadness.
Pay close attention to the feelings of others and listen carefully to their hearts. We feel most heard and seen when we are met with understanding and respect for our feelings. Cheer your people on and take the time to sit with someone who is sad.
“Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.”
Romans 12:15
Pursue and promote peace…
Put others first and look to God to meet your needs.
Perhaps the most difficult place to be selfless is at home – expectations run high – but if we look to God to meet our needs, He will reward and bless us. Many times, when we serve one another without an agenda, we will find others following our lead.
“It is easy for us to decide that we have nothing left to give. We might say that we are exhausted, needy, used up, or beaten up. We might want to hide in a hole or lash out at irritating people around us when we feel this way, but that is not what God expects for us as His ambassadors. He wants to bring our tired and empty hearts to Him so He can fill us back up. We can exchange our dry, brittle spirit for a soft, pliable heart that has room for all of His love.”
Be a peace-seeker and a peacemaker.
“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”
Romans 12:18
I am learning more and more that I cannot do this on my own. It requires a super-natural intervention from God to settle my own heart down and to trust Him to make peace between people. The good news is that God is a peacemaking specialist and He loves to do it! I use a strategy that I call the 3 P’s to help me in times of conflict in my own life.
The 3 P’s:
Pause – take a breath and wait before responding.
Pray – ask God to intervene in my own heart and in the heart of others involved.
Preach – to MYSELF and remind myself of God’s truth and His promises.
Bless and forgive…
Serve others even when they feel like the enemy.
God is very specific on this – we are to bless, forgive, and serve our enemies (or those who feel like the enemy in the moment) and leave any avenging to Him. This may be the most difficult thing to do, but we can trust that God is able to make things right because he is just. Anything we do for revenge is evil and does not please God.
Cling to what is good.
We had a rabbit once that latched its teeth onto the cage wire to prevent being removed from his hutch – true story. Funny picture, but this is the type of clinging we need to do – holding on to good by the skin of our teeth! And I find it takes this kind of persistence because I am constantly tempted to return to selfish motives and expectations. Sadly, they never achieve victory for me. The kind of victory I am looking for is only won when I give it all over to God and let Him have His way with me and my family – no wonder this passage is sandwiched with this concept.
“Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”
Romans 12:9,21
Friends, we are responsible to encourage our people. When we look to God and seek His ways, He will give us the opportunities to encourage and the blessings will abound!
by wendy | Apr 9, 2020 | Encouragement, Encouragement For Your Heart, Godly Relationships, Hospitality
I love it when God teaches me through experiences, and I tend to learn the lesson even more fully when He uses my own writing to impact my heart. This week has been one of those opportunities and I know He timed it for just when I would need the encouragement.
I have been using themes to organize my writing goals for each week. This week, I felt led to write about Hospitality. It seemed like an odd topic – given the current quarantine situation – but I embraced the challenge and brainstormed about the unique ways I have seen people offer hospitality while social distancing. Even as I blogged about the loneliness of others, my own heart was grieving this week. I felt alone.
Early in the week, my friend and neighbor texted to ask if she could visit in the yard. We have a beautiful maple tree just outside my back door that creates a “room” with the strong branches. Several swings hang from its arms and that old tree has hosted more conversations than I can count. The swings hang a safe distance apart and the fresh air and cool shade offer hospitality without compromising health. We had a wonderful visit and after she left I felt less alone.
Just last night, another friend texted and asked to stop by for a visit. “I’ll meet you under the tree!” was my quick response. This time, the dusk had settled in and my family was all around – but somehow our conversation felt safe and sacred under the protection of the maple’s canopy. Hospitality provided hope and healing under the shelter of peace.
Even in this time of quarantine and social distance, we still need to be together. Virtual meetings are good, texting and calling are important, writing letters and posting on social media have value – but there is nothing that replaces the actual presence of a person. I respect the need to be isolated in this time, but in the right environment, with the proper precautions, we still need each other.
“Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.”
1 John 4:11-12
I am grateful for my opportunities this week to offer hospitality. God used my own gift of encouragement to encourage me! He blessed me by giving me opportunity to bless others. In my own words from Volume 1 of “A Daily Cup of Encouragement – One Sip at a Time”:
“This is abundance – full circle – complete. The word, Shalom, that we know as peace, means completeness in Hebrew. When God completes something there is peace – Shalom.”
Go in peace, my friends. I pray that you are able to encourage someone in the coming days and that in your encouragement, your own heart will be blessed. Shalom.
by wendy | Apr 7, 2020 | Encouragement, Encouragement For Your Heart, Godly Relationships, Hospitality
Easter seems to feel a bit different this year. The thought of Jesus’s death sits atop the mounding thoughts of death from the corona virus.The empty tomb and Christians hiding in their houses highlights the uncertainty we feel in these times. Our worldly Easter traditions thrown aside – we are forced to face the holiday for what it is – raw and unfiltered – purely about Jesus and what He has done for us.
Shortly after the resurrection, Peter and his friends did what he knew best – he went fishing. This wasn’t just a pastime to him, it was his profession. When things are uncertain, we tend to go back to what we know, and Peter was no different. After a night of no success, a man on the shore yelled out a suggestion to throw out their nets on the other side. Though they had not yet recognized Jesus, I feel sure the bulging nets they hauled in from the right side of the boat brought the realization that their friend was with them! Peter – no surprise here – jumped out of the boat and hurried to his side while the others brought in the boat and fish.
It is this part of the story that warms my heart most. Jesus was waiting on shore with a fire, ready to cook them breakfast. He knew they had been out all night fishing; He knew they had been suffering in a season of uncertainty; He knew they were dealing with grief and guilt and guessing – so He fed them. Jesus brought hospitality to them – where they needed it, when they needed it. When they were finished eating, He gave Peter directions:
“Jesus said, ‘Feed my sheep.'”
John 21:17
We just don’t know what is going to happen next in this world – but we do know this: Jesus is alive and well and He wants us to feed His sheep. He has given us His word, His blessings, and gifts to do the work of caring for people. Certainly we are to feed the souls of others with His word, but Jesus also demonstrates for us how we can meet the needs of people in practical ways.
“If one of you says to them, ‘Go in peace; keep warm and well fed,’ but does nothing about their physical needs, what good is it?”
James 2:16
Jesus brought hospitality and fellowship to the disciples in a time when they needed it most. He filled their bellies so He could fill their hearts. This is the time, friends, when we should be looking for opportunities to do the same. To whom can you deliver hospitality today? Who do you know that needs the encouragement of a warm meal and knowledge that you are available? How can you use God’s word, the blessings He has given you, and the gifts He has bestowed on you to meet people where they are?
“Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.'”
Matthew 25:34-36
by wendy | Apr 6, 2020 | Encouragement, Godly Relationships, Hospitality, Tips for Encouraging Others
This season of quarantine and social distancing may seem an unlikely time to discuss the encouragement of hospitality, but since we are unable to offer hospitality in our usual way – it might just be the best time. Typically, our contemporary understanding of hospitality involves having people into our homes and entertaining them with food and conversation. Hospitality often conjures up visions of a beautifully decorated and immaculately cleaned house as well as a gourmet dinner and perfectly behaved children. The recipients of this hospitality are usually assumed to be friends or family – invited guests – and they would of course be gracious. But is this the biblical picture of hospitably?
“Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice Hospitality.”
Romans 12:13
At first glance, these two sentences might seem to be to repetitive, but not necessarily. As Christians, we understand that believers are considered to be like family, and while it is not an easy practice, sharing with other Christians would make sense. We are to look beyond the four walls of our home – even beyond the walls of our local church – to meet the needs of The Church, the body of all believers.
Once Paul established our duty to care for other believers, he stretched our understanding of caring for others in general. The greek word used here for hospitality is “philoxenia” which means love of strangers. Yes, we are to share with those who share our faith, but we are also to extend that same love to people that we don’t know at all.
As difficult as it is for some of us to think about offering hospitality to our close friends and family, opening up our most intimate spaces to strangers is surely out of our comfort zone. But most of us are already uncomfortable in this ever-changing world today, so we might as well stretch a bit more. How then, can we offer hospitality without allowing anyone into our homes? Here are some ways I have seen you practicing hospitality in the midst of the pandemic:
6 Ways To Offer Hospitality In The Midst of a Pandemic
- Share your space virtually.
Keep sharing the beauty and humor you find in your day. We may not be there in person, but we can find joy in your happy times. Teach us to cook a meal, sing us a song, do a little dance, show us your cute animals. Each time you let us into your life, we feel a little less alone.
- Create a virtual gathering
So many people right now just need someone with whom to connect. Create an open time for people to gather virtually and talk, start a virtual book club, or do an online Bible Study. Consider opening the group to people you don’t already know. Who knows what new friendships may form!
Food is stil a major factor in fellowship – who says you can’t break bread together? Prepare or order a portion for your friend, have it delivered or leave it on the doorstep, and then enjoy conversation by phone or FaceTime while you each eat in the safety of your own homes.
- Watch a movie or listen to a concert virtually.
Shared experience is an important key to defeating loneliness. Choose something that you both enjoy and make a virtual date.
- Share prayers or bedtime stories virtually.
This is an amazing time to share your important family traditions with others. Include grandparents, the neighbor, the single mom with little ones, or even your friends that live far away. Pray or read together over the phone or use FaceTime or zoom.
- Offer a safe outdoor space for a mini-vacation.
While many parks, beaches, and entertainment venues are closed, you can share your private outdoor spaces with those who don’t have access to enjoy nature right now. Invite one family at a time to walk on your trail through the woods or fish in the pond on your farm. Offer your secret sunset viewing spot, or your picnic table at the edge of the field. Stay in the house and let the outdoor space be theirs to enjoy for the day – even overnight if they want to camp out and watch the stars!
We are all looking forward to a time when we can gather again in person, but let this be a time to practice hospitality in some unconventional ways. My hope is that you will be so blessed by the virtual hospitality that you will be virtually unable to resist hospitality in person when the time comes!
